Colorado, from a New Yorker's point of view

When do you call someone baby?  It’s a little weird if it is the first time in bed with someone.  Baby to me always implies more of an intimate relationship.  Of course, if you have to concentrate & ponder which name you should be moaning out I would think it is probably better to use something generic like baby.  I came to that conclusion the other night as this girl and I were rolling around.  I was thoroughly enjoying myself when my mind wondered to a simple thought;  ‘She’s done this before.’ I don’t want to say she’s been around, but by the time you reach your late 20′s I expect you’ve been around.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. In fact, I sort of expect it.  But then you can’t help but wonder how around is around?

Something tells me she’s been calling me baby to keep my name straight.  Which is somewhat ingenious.  I mean it is not ingenious like Michael Angelo. But ingenious enough.

What is the worst free drink to get after already having one of the same?  Does that make sense?  What is delicious the first time around, but horrible for round 2?  A bartender offers a second beer or glass of wine on the house.  No problem.  But what about mixed drinks?  The Dirty Martini has to be it.  Especially one made with 30-40% olive juice.  When served in a 10 oz martini glass? “Wow! thanks but no thanks.”

If I’m drinking martini’s it’s usually a one and done thing. Or rather one and move on to something else.  The other night I was given a free dirty martini. If it wasn’t overflowing I would have thought that someone else returned for being half olive juice.  I only wanted one, but then to get a horribly made second drink yech.

When do you try to salvage a relationship and when do you decide to walk away?  I’m not talking about long term relationships or situations with kids or joint bank accounts.  I’m talking about new relationships.

How do you decide if something is simply a miss-communication issue or something deeper?  When and how do you decide if something small and minor about a person that you don’t like is enough to call off a relationship?  If you say “no, it’s a minor issue”;  what happens if it blows up?

I recently started seeing someone.  For once, from the start I actually really liked her.  As a friend told me I was probably too nice to her.   I’ve been somewhat rude (in my own unique way) to all the women I’ve dated since I’ve been in town but for some reason I’ve  was too nice to this one particular girl.

Part of me says to walk away and stay away.  After all if we are arguing this early it is only going to get worse.  On the other hand, I honestly believe it might just be an issue of poor communication.  The problem is she is a revisionist.  The discussion changed into an argument when she accused me of saying something I didn’t say.  I probably could have put that behind me.  I’ll admit the argument or miss-communication was 90% my fault.  About a week later I tried for a reconciliation.  The conversation was going well until once again she rewrote history.  This time she started arguing that she never accused me of saying what she had accused me of saying.  Holy shit, “I told you I never said it and you fought with me and now you admit that I never said it, but you are denying you accused me of saying it.

Maybe I’m just better staying away.