Colorado, from a New Yorker's point of view

Revisionist History

by Mr. New to Denver on May.01, 2010, under Dating & Women

When do you try to salvage a relationship and when do you decide to walk away?  I’m not talking about long term relationships or situations with kids or joint bank accounts.  I’m talking about new relationships.

How do you decide if something is simply a miss-communication issue or something deeper?  When and how do you decide if something small and minor about a person that you don’t like is enough to call off a relationship?  If you say “no, it’s a minor issue”;  what happens if it blows up?

I recently started seeing someone.  For once, from the start I actually really liked her.  As a friend told me I was probably too nice to her.   I’ve been somewhat rude (in my own unique way) to all the women I’ve dated since I’ve been in town but for some reason I’ve  was too nice to this one particular girl.

Part of me says to walk away and stay away.  After all if we are arguing this early it is only going to get worse.  On the other hand, I honestly believe it might just be an issue of poor communication.  The problem is she is a revisionist.  The discussion changed into an argument when she accused me of saying something I didn’t say.  I probably could have put that behind me.  I’ll admit the argument or miss-communication was 90% my fault.  About a week later I tried for a reconciliation.  The conversation was going well until once again she rewrote history.  This time she started arguing that she never accused me of saying what she had accused me of saying.  Holy shit, “I told you I never said it and you fought with me and now you admit that I never said it, but you are denying you accused me of saying it.

Maybe I’m just better staying away.


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