Colorado, from a New Yorker's point of view

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by Mr. New to Denver on Jun.05, 2010, under Dating & Women

When are you officially dating someone?  I wrote about this once before.  I usually like to avoid the official title of “dating.”  I like the ambiguity that we can still be seeing other people.  I don’t want to pressure anyone and I’ve fucked up relationships by trying to label them.  So I avoid it.

I was talking to a couple of friends the other night.  Both of whom had dated each other.  One commented that she always needed to have clarity as to the status of the relationship.  Her ex was just the opposite.  Her ex told me that she avoids adding a title to a relationships for as long as possible.  Being a guy I just figured it was because she wanted to keep dating.  Instead she explained it as being afraid that a label places too much pressure on the relationship and the other person.  Interesting.  I really thought she didn’t want to commit to one person.  “I was completely faithful from the beginning.  I just didn’t want to pressure her.” she told me.  She has a very interesting perspective on things.


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