Colorado, from a New Yorker's point of view

When do you call someone baby?  It’s a little weird if it is the first time in bed with someone.  Baby to me always implies more of an intimate relationship.  Of course, if you have to concentrate & ponder which name you should be moaning out I would think it is probably better to use something generic like baby.  I came to that conclusion the other night as this girl and I were rolling around.  I was thoroughly enjoying myself when my mind wondered to a simple thought;  ‘She’s done this before.’ I don’t want to say she’s been around, but by the time you reach your late 20′s I expect you’ve been around.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. In fact, I sort of expect it.  But then you can’t help but wonder how around is around?

Something tells me she’s been calling me baby to keep my name straight.  Which is somewhat ingenious.  I mean it is not ingenious like Michael Angelo. But ingenious enough.

I was talking to a friend from back home the other day.  She is newly single and just started dating.  We were talking about some weird dating experiences we’ve each had  She  mentioned she recently went out with this guy and he brought his younger brother along.

Who would ever think to bring someone along on a date?  I’m not referring to having extra tickets to a sporting event, or concert and inviting friends and a date.  I’m talking about inviting someone along for a quiet cocktail or dinner.

Unless I am specifically double dating I try to avoid running into friends the first few dates I’m on with a girl.  I find it is much better if she meets my sketchy, scumbag friends after we’ve been dating a little while.  You all know who you are.

What about bringing an ex on a date?  I’m not referring to an ex whom you now have a strictly platonic relationship with.  That’s fine and normal.  But what about an ex that still has feelings for you?

I have friend who was performing in a dance recital and her boyfriend brought his ex-girlfriend.  His ex girlfriend who still had feelings for him.  This is much weirder and even more inappropriate than bringing along a sibling.  In this person’s defense it was supposedly the ex’s last weekend in town before she moved cross country, but still all you are really doing is upsetting both women.

I’m slightly shocked at the arrogance of some women.  If we’ve never met and you cancel plans with me during the week what makes you assume you are entitled to any of my weekend real estate?  Granted when you are unemployed everyday is a weekend.  But my weekends are for friends and people I’ve met before.  I would add in family, but they are 1,800 miles away.  There are only 55 hours between 5pm on Friday and midnight Sunday.  I’m not giving those hours up that easily.

I understand things come up during the week and you may get stuck having to work late.  It happened to me on a fairly regular basis.  But don’t expect to reschedule our first meeting on a Saturday.  We were meeting on a Tuesday night for a reason.  Maybe Saturday afternoon could work, but a Saturday night…for someone who has already canceled plans once?  Forget it.